Women tend to invest a lot in a relationship; we put our heart and soul into it. We trust blindly, care immensely and love recklessly. We don’t put ourselves first when we are truly in love. My friend fell in love with a man who treated her wrong in so many ways. She trusted him and gave him everything she had. She refused to look past the fake box of perfection she had created for herself. Her idea of a perfect relationship was petty and shallow. She didn’t realize the wrong she was doing to herself; until she was finally out of the relationship.
Men want to be selected by a strong and independent woman; the kind of woman who knows her worth respects herself and knows how to make people respect her. The moment a woman learns self-respect, she gains the ability to evaluate her relationship better. She prepares herself to leave the man she loves because she knows that her love for this man was for the wrong reasons. Every meaningless thing suddenly starts to make sense.
1. Lack of common interests are not a good sign
Okay, before I say anything, I want you to know that people change with time. It might be you or it might be your partner. It is very true that negatives attract, but you both should have some common interests. If you transitioned, it’s not necessary that your partner transitioned along with you. It was these common interests that initially helped you both bond, their absence will have a drastic effect on your relationship.
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Any girl would be left questioning her decisions. My friend’s ex used to adore so many things about her but she told me that by the end of the relationship, he started to disapprove of almost everything she did, as if she were inclined to please him.
2. Lack of communication will kill you
Women need someone to talk to, it’s impractical for a guy to be by her side all the time but if you are absent most of the time, you are giving her one less of a reason to hold on. If you are not with her every time she needs you, it’s like practically asking her to move on. My friend’s ex would be absent for days without any explanation.
And by ‘being there’, I also mean that you need to be mentally present. You need to “listen” to her, not just nod your head at everything she says. Pay attention, become a valid part of the conversation and make the conversation lively. That’s the only way you can strengthen communication between the two of you and will make your relationship great.