It’s been said before and maybe it needs to be said again. Communication is absolutely essential in making a relationship work. You can’t expect to build a long and happy romance with someone if you don’t have a strong communication game. And you have to remember that communication isn’t merely about talking to one another; it’s also about the manner in which you communicate and the kinds of things that you talk about. If the only kind of conversation that the both of you ever really engage in is small talk,
then you know that there’s something wrong there. You always need to be able to go deep with one another as far as your communication is concerned. If you can’t go deep with the person you’re supposedly in love with, then who else can you go deep with? That’s why you should never trust couples who are incapable or unwilling to have deep and difficult conversations. The strongest couples are always willing to have uncomfortable discussions with one another because they know that that’s part of making a relationship work; it’s part of being mature adults who love one another.
So if you’re in a relationship with a guy and he’s unwilling to talk to you about a lot of these things, then that could mean one or two things. He might be immature and he feels that he’s incapable of having difficult and deep discussions. Or he just doesn’t love and trust you enough to have these intimate and vulnerable conversations with. Either way, it’s not a good thing. And you have a decision to make about the future of your relationship:
1. Your feelings (even the negative ones).
You should always have a partner who is willing to listen to you talk about your feelings. You are only human. And part of being in a relationship is having someone who you are able to be completely vulnerable with. And if your partner doesn’t make you feel like you have a free space to express yourself, then it should be over at hat point.