Marriage is one of the biggest decisions of your life, to decide to spend the rest of your life with one person, to share everything with them and to give them all of you. It’s kind of scary but it’s also pretty exciting. We all have to get married at some point or the other, it’s a part of life like everything else that takes you forward and helps you grow.
I’m not going into the depths of marriage right now, that would be a different article altogether. I’m simply going to quote a few questions you need to ask your partner before you decide to tie the knot with them.
1. Have we discussed whether or not to have children and if the answer if yes, who is going to be the primary caregiver?
This question is one of the important ones. Having children is a big decision because they can change your life. Now whether they change it for the good or the bad is completely up to you.
2. Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals. And do our ideas about spending and saving match?
I’ve seen a lot of strong relationships go weak when it comes to the topic of money. Financial management should be a two-sided thing in which both the partners are happy and satisfied with each other. If one of the two decides to go on their own, that’s when the problems start happening. So keep a clear idea about this before you go on.
3. Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect?
Affection and romance should come on its own, you shouldn’t have to ask for it. The moment you feel its absence is a very scary moment and its when the two of you need to talk things out. When a romance goes out the window, the relationship starts losing its spark.
4. Will we be a part of each other’s major decisions?
Being married means you two share one life. One life that’s going to have a lot of decision-making and a lot of big scenarios are going to appear in front of you that you’ll mutually need to decide on. Mutual agreement is key here and you need a lot of it together.
5. Do we like and respect each other’s friends?
We all have our own different social lives and that comes with us when we get married. Our friends will still remain a huge part of our lives and we can’t ignore that fact. You both need to mutually like and respect each other’s friends otherwise it may lead to problems later on. Respect each other’s right to have their own space when they need it, no matter how much two people love each other they still need to have their time with their friends.