Stop asking yourself and others why he has never tried as hard as he should and could, to have you, to call him yours. Stop wondering why, stop looking for excuses to make, stop finding ridiculous reasons. Stop it because there’s only one answer to that question and that is this: he’s just not that into you. How hard he tries is a testament to how bad he wants you. It’s literally that simple and the only reason why it seems complicated to you is that you haven’t yet accepted the fact that he’s not all that into you, not as much as you want him to be.
He’s not confused. He’s not looking for answers and no, sorry but, he doesn’t “need time.”` He knows exactly what he wants, and it is not all of you. He’s made his decision, and that decision is to you in bits and pieces. He wants only some of you and only sometimes. He wants you in bits and pieces. Have you thought that maybe that’s the reason why he only tries when it’s easy for him to try? And maybe that’s why his efforts feel incomplete and in-genuine to you? Deep down your heart knows he’s not what you think he is. Listen to your heart. You know he’s not shy about his love.
He’s not intimated by your personality, by your freedom and strength. He’s not overwhelmingly busy with work, family or other responsibilities. He’s merely making excuses. If he truly loved you and wanted you, he’d put everything aside for your love and attention. He’d put everything behind him for a while and spend his time with you. The truth is, he’s only in this for himself and his convenience. Understand this: Men love to go after the woman they can’t stop thinking of.
Men have made the first move and initiated the relationship for centuries, and he’d do the exact same thing if that’s what his heart desired. But it’s not. While your precious soul is yearning for his true love if his actions tell you he doesn’t really care then the painfully harsh truth is that he just doesn’t care. There’s no way around it. People make their relationships and their bonds into what they want them to be. People make others feel they want they want them to feel.