Infidelity. Unfaithfulness. Cheating. It’s unfortunate. It’s devastating. It’s wretched. It’s cruel. You can try your best to make things work in a relationship; but that doesn’t always guarantee that your partner is going to stay loyal and committed to you. That’s a harsh truth that you’re just going to have to accept as early as now. Love is a tricky thing – it’s a risk. You are never really promised success and it’s always devastating whenever you fall short. Love is hard – but that’s also why it’s so great when you are able to make things work. Remember that the best things in life never come easily;
they always require a lot of time, commitment, and effort – and love isn’t any different. You are always going to have to try your best to make a relationship work; and even then, you aren’t always going to be guaranteed of favorable results. You just have to try your best and hope for the best. When you first meet someone you have a kind of chemistry with, you try to build on that chemistry. You act as a team and you try your best to make things work together. You fall in love and you become really invested in one another and in your relationship. You become attached to the idea of being together for the long-term and you become so entranced at the thought of making things work.
But then, things don’t always go according to plan. Sometimes, one of you may go astray; and you find yourself feeling heartbroken and devastated by it. You are forced to confront so many feelings and emotions that come with betrayal and unfaithfulness; but more than that, you are forced to make a decision on the fate of your relationship that you have invested so much of yourself with. It’s always messy whenever you have to deal with unfaithfulness and cheating in a relationship. And even though there’s no way for you to guarantee that your partner would never cheat on you(you can only control so many variables), you can always put yourself in the best position to not be cheated on.
That all starts with being a good judge of character. You need to know who you’re getting in bed with, so to speak. So, that’s why you always need to stay guarded whenever you are getting to know someone. Yes, to a certain extent, you are going to have to make yourself vulnerable in a relationship. You have to open yourself up if you’re going to get closer to another human being. However, that doesn’t mean that you have to open yourself up so recklessly. You need to be able to know that the person you’re actually opening yourself up to is someone you trust.