You don’t have to put your life on hold and wait for him to call you. You don’t have to keep on waiting for him to make an effort with you. You shouldn’t have to keep on making excuses for how terribly he treats you; for how poorly he conducts himself in the relationship. You need to see him for who he really is. You can’t keep on blinding yourself to reality at this point. For your own good, you need to stay vigilant; you need to be seeing the truth. You can’t be lying to yourself about his poor character. You can’t let him have all of the power in your relationship. You can’t let him dictate how you see yourself.
You can’t let him have the final say with regards to your self-esteem and sense of self-worth. You really need to put yourself at the center of your own life. You can’t allow him to be in charge of how you take care of yourself. You can’t let your sense of happiness depend on him. At the end of the day, he has to be someone who meets your expectations He has to be the kind of guy who works hard to meet your needs. And if he fails to do those things; if he shows an unwillingness to put in the effort in your relationship, you really need to let him go. You need to walk away from that man. He isn’t someone you should be putting your life on hold for.
You are only going to be setting yourself for a lot of heartbreak and disappointment by waiting for a man who is just never going to arrive. You don’t have to put your life on hold and wait for him to treat you the way that you deserve to be treated. If he isn’t treating you with love and respect at this very moment, then why are you still even with him? Why are you so tolerant of his mistreatment of you? You deserve to be treated with love, respect, and basic decency. And if he can’t do that, why would you want to stay and wait around for him? You dream of a great life for yourself. You envision a great love for yourself.